Friday, March 25, 2011

Will Over Emotions

There is a way that seems right to a man, but in the end it leads to death.  —Proverbs 14:12

I was involved in a fender bender a number of years ago. I was barely moving on an icy road as I approached a sharp right turn onto a main road. I prepared to stop on an upgrade and make the turn onto the highway when a young man turned off the main road cutting the turn short. Startled upon seeing me, he stopped on the road in front of me. Equally startled, I tapped the brake, my tires locked up, and I slowly slid straight into his car. I wasn’t even going that direction.

If the young man would have continued across my lane, we would not have crashed. If I would have simply continued on my way to the stop sign and turned right onto the main road, no paint mixing. Neither car was badly damaged. We played the insurance blame game and had both cars repaired. My biggest challenge was not the damaged car, nor the young man’s upset father interrogating me at my house, but my telephone interview with the insurance company.

Someone warned me that the first question of the insurance interview would be, “Were you wearing your seatbelt?” I was not. Although the Pennsylvania seatbelt law was enacted 1987, wearing a seatbelt just didn’t seem comfortable to me. It was easy to simply forget to put it on. I guess I didn’t feel like wearing it. I really wanted to tell the insurance company that I was wearing my seatbelt, but I was not. My dilemma was how could I not say that I was not wearing my seatbelt without lying. I felt such pressure to say I was doing the right thing when I was not. I was tempted to lie.

We often get into these kinds of predicaments when we allow our emotions and feelings to rule over our wills and minds. We do what we feel like doing rather than what we know is right. We make comments like, “It just felt right!” Unconsciously, we live by the motto, “If it feels good, do it.” Proverbs tells us, “There is a way that seems right to a man, but in the end it leads to death.” Have you ever given or received the advice, “Just follow your heart.”? Although it sounds so true (and would be if we were perfect reflections of Jesus Christ), this advice often leads us to make poor decisions, disobey God, and hurt ourselves and others.

What would our world and lives be like if God acted solely on emotion? What if God reacted with “sin rage” every time we fell short in the same way humans react with road rage when cut off by another driver? What if Jesus didn’t go to the Cross because He didn’t feel like it? What if He prayed in the garden, “Father, I just don’t think it’s going to feel good.”?

The scriptures tell us that Jesus “learned obedience from the things which He suffered” (Hebrews 5:8). Jesus “humbled Himself by becoming obedient to the point of death, even death on a cross” (Philippians 2:8). He prayed in the Garden, “My Father, if it is possible, let this cup pass from Me; yet not as I will, but as You will” (Matt. 26:39). There is always a right thing to do. The next right thing to do might not be easy, and we might not feel like doing it, but it is always right to do the right thing, the righteous thing.

Some of you are facing dilemmas about what you would like to do and what you know is the right thing to do. There is a way that seems right to man; it leads to death and God will give you no support in that direction. There is always the right thing to do, and Jesus promises His presence and power to do that which is pleasing in God’s sight. Stop and pray; trust the Lord and do the right thing. You will never regret it or feel the need to lie about it.

Friday, March 18, 2011

Relationship Not Rules

“A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another.”                                                                                                                                 –John 13:34

Many people have a false image of God as a fire-breathing, cosmic cop waiting for us to slip up so we might be eternally condemned. We may have acquired this mistaken understanding about God from overpowering bosses, controlling pastors, or legalistic parents. These types of heavy-handed control freaks have rules for everything. Basically, they have two rules. Rule #1, I’m the boss. Rule #2, refer to Rule #1. By the way, to me, a legalistic parent is one who gives discipline but has no relationship. Healthy children come out of an environment where discipline exists within loving relationships.

God gave the Ten Commandments to the Israelites immediately after their deliverance from the Egyptians in the Exodus. Rule #1, “I am the Lord your God…You shall have no other gods before me” (Exodus 20:2-3). To someone far from God, this sounds like a pretty jealous and demanding God. Considering the fact that eight of the Ten Commandments begin with, “No,” God could appear as a negative, sinner-condemning kind of being. Just wondering: Do our children learn to say, “I love you,” before they learn to say, “No?” Do we teach relationship or rules?

The truth about God, whether we feel it or not, is that God is love and desires an intimate relationship with you and me. The Ten Commandments serve as the bare minimal requirements for God’s people. They are the least we must do if we are to represent the people of God. The Ten Commandments may have been written in the negative because these acts destroy life and the community of God’s people. They simply must NOT be tolerated.

God walking with Adam and Eve in the Garden of Eden describes God’s intention and ultimate end for humans. Both the Catholic and Protestant catechisms tell us that God created man to glorify God and enjoy Him forever. Notice the word, “enjoy.” The catechisms further define man’s purpose as to know, love, and serve Him. Notice that know and love come before serve.

God desires a people for His own possession who will love Him and want to serve Him from an inward desire rather than from an outward observance. God does not seek a collection of moral robots that legalistically follow a set of rules. Jesus summarized the Ten Commandments with two: Rule #1, Love God, and Rule #2, Love your neighbor. At the Last Supper after Jesus washed the disciples’ feet, He gave a new commandment to His followers, a new Rule #1, “Love one another, as I have loved you” (John 13:34). Our God is a God of love who gave Himself for us and desires us to respond to His love by loving Him back and loving others.

Is your relationship with God and others lacking love? Let us respond to God’s love offered to us in Jesus Christ. Then, out of the love of God abiding in us by the Holy Spirit, let us offer love to others.